Kwizirika kubikinisho ni ikimenyetso cyumutekano muke?

Ibihuha:

Abana benshi bakundashyira ibikinisho. Barazifata iyo basinziriye, barya cyangwa bagiye gukina. Ababyeyi benshi barumiwe. Bakeka ko ibyo biterwa nuko abana babo badasabana kandi ntibashobora kubana nabandi bana. Bafite impungenge ko iki ari ikimenyetso cyuko abana babo badafite umutekano. Ndetse batekereza ko niba batagize icyo bakora mu gihe, byoroshye ko abana babo bagira ibibazo byimiterere. Ndetse bagerageza uburyo bwose kugirango abana babo "bareke" ibi bikinisho bya plush.

Gusobanura ukuri:

Abana benshi bakunda ibikinisho bya plush. Barazifata iyo basinziriye, barya cyangwa bagiye gukina. Ababyeyi benshi barumiwe. Bakeka ko ibyo biterwa nuko abana babo badasabana kandi ntibashobora kubana nabandi bana. Bafite impungenge ko iki ari ikimenyetso cyuko abana babo badafite umutekano. Ndetse batekereza ko niba batagize icyo bakora mu gihe, byoroshye ko abana babo bagira ibibazo byimiterere. Ndetse bagerageza uburyo bwose kugirango abana babo "bareke" ibi bikinisho bya plush. Izi mpungenge n'amaganya birakenewe koko? Tugomba kubona dute abana kwishingikiriza kuri ibi bikinisho?

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"Imaginary Partners" iherekeza abana kugana ubwigenge

Gukunda ibikinisho bya plush ntaho bihuriye no kumva umutekano

Mubyukuri, iki kintu cyiswe "ibintu byoroshye byoroshye" naba psychologue, kandi ni uburyo bwinzibacyuho bwerekana iterambere ryabana ryigenga. Gufata ibikinisho bya plush nk "abafatanyabikorwa babo" birashobora kubafasha gukuraho amakimbirane mubihe bimwe na bimwe, kandi ababyeyi ntibagomba guhangayika cyane.

Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze ya muntu witwa Donald Wincott yakoze ubushakashatsi bwa mbere ku kintu cyo guhuza abana n’igikinisho cyoroshye cyangwa ikintu runaka, maze asoza avuga ko iki kintu gifite akamaro k’inzibacyuho mu mikurire y’abana. Yise ibintu byoroshye abana bifatanye n "ibintu byinzibacyuho". Mugihe abana bakura, barushaho kwigenga mubitekerezo, kandi mubisanzwe bazimurira iyi nkunga amarangamutima ahandi hantu.

Mu bushakashatsi bwakozwe na Richard Passman, inzobere mu bijyanye n’imitekerereze y’abana muri kaminuza ya Wisconsin, n’abandi, byagaragaye kandi ko iki kintu cyoroshye “ibintu byoroheje bifatika” gikunze kugaragara ku isi yose. Kurugero, muri Amerika, Ubuholandi, Nouvelle-Zélande no mu bindi bihugu, umubare w’abana bafite “ibintu byoroheje bifatanye” bigeze kuri 3/5, mu gihe amakuru yo muri Koreya yepfo ari 1/5. Birashobora kugaragara ko nibisanzwe kubana bamwe kwizirika kubikinisho bya plush cyangwa ibintu byoroshye. Kandi birakwiye ko tumenya ko benshi muri aba bana bakunda ibikinisho bya plush ntibabura umutekano kandi bafite umubano mwiza wumubyeyi numwana nababyeyi babo.

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Abakuze nabo bafite urwego rwibintu byoroshye biterwa

Birumvikana kugabanya imihangayiko uko bikwiye

Naho abo bana batunzwe cyaneshyira ibikinisho, ni gute ababyeyi bagomba kubayobora neza? Dore ibyifuzo bitatu:

Ubwa mbere, ntubahatire kubireka. Urashobora gukura ibitekerezo byabo mubikinisho byihariye ukoresheje insimburangingo abandi bana bakunda; icya kabiri, gutsimbataza izindi nyungu zabana no kubayobora gushakisha ibintu bishya, kugirango bagabanye buhoro buhoro kwizirika kubikinisho; icya gatatu, shishikariza abana gusezera by'agateganyo ibintu bakunda, kugirango abana bamenye ko hari ibintu bishimishije bibategereje.

Mubyukuri, usibye abana, abantu benshi bakuze nabo bafite umugereka runaka kubintu byoroshye. Kurugero, bakunda gutanga ibikinisho bya plush nkimpano, kandi ntibashobora kurwanya ibipupe byiza mumashini yinzara; kurugero, abantu bamwe bakunda plush pajama cyane kuruta ibindi bikoresho nigitambara. Bahitamo plush yuburyo bwo kwisiga kuri sofa, ibiringiti hasi, ndetse imisatsi yimisatsi hamwe na terefone igendanwa ... kuko ibyo bintu bishobora gutuma abantu bumva baruhutse kandi bamerewe neza, ndetse bakagera no ku ngaruka za decompression.

Muri make, nizere ko ababyeyi bashobora kubona neza abana babo biterwa nibikinisho bya plush, ntibahangayike cyane, kandi ntibahatire kubireka. Ubayobore witonze kandi ufashe abana babo gukura muburyo bwiza. Kubantu bakuze, mugihe cyose bitarenze urugero kandi ntibigire ingaruka mubuzima busanzwe, gukoresha bimwe mubikenerwa bya buri munsi kugirango ubeho neza kandi wiruhutse nuburyo bwiza bwo gutesha umutwe.